Being A Mother… Is HARD.

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My title may seem to be an understatement, an obvious piece of rhetoric that could be mistaken for sarcasm. But what it really is, is a cold, undeniable, fact. Being a mother is hard. 

I have an idea, let’s be responsible for another human being. Wait, say again, let’s be responsible for several other human beings. But let’s not just see that they survive, let’s really ingest their every whim, their pain and their passion, their mistakes and their successes. Let’s, we mothers pretend we can control and that we in fact are in control of everything. Every. Thing.

Every time they cry or fall or swear or take a breath, let’s feel it, hear it, breath it in with them and cry harder and louder and longer.

Let’s try a billion things, a billion times and fail. Let’s try again.

Even the good things, the poignant memories, the fantastic accomplishments, are soul crushing and bittersweet, because they are all steps taken away from us, against us, without us. Their new friends are not us, their favorite teachers are not us, their new babies and new houses and new jobs are all not ours or even with us in mind. But these are our babies.

So let’s watch, during the 86,400 instances in each day, let’s watch and wait and worry and wonder and weep, forever. Not for five years or twelve or eighteen or twenty-one years. Forever. From before they are born until after they may be gone, the ache, the draw, the magnetic tug on our ankles in the sand will always be our children.

Near or far, good or bad. On the very best of days, being anyone’s mother, is hard.

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HELP! I’ve fallen and I can’t get up..

As much as I’d love for my everyday schedule to include hours and hours of writing, and only minute breaks to visit the Keurig or scavenge for a protein bar, that just isn’t the case. There are cars, and dogs, and millions of loads of laundry to be done. There are meals to be cooked (no, not everyone can survive on protein bars like I did for a month in Africa) and by default I am the chef. Such is my life. And I’m OK with this.

But, then there’s you, oh dear, dear reader. Wondering where I am when I fail to blog. Hoping I’ll come back soon–praying for my safe return. Musing on whether I’m actually writing these books I’ve committed to write.

Well, to ease your worried mind, I am and I will. I will finish these books. I will do it by the deadline. And, I will keep you in the loop. Cherilyn has pinned me down to at least one blog post a week. Although she has plenty to say on her own, she’d like me to check in and keep you appraised of my progress and my commitment. Both of which are strong.

I’m loving how our tour is coming together and I’m excited about seeing the places we are planning to go. But more importantly, I’m excited about meeting you! You, reader, are why we are here. Who are you? Where are you? What do you do and why do you love your life? What words are shaping your lives right now? How can we encourage you?

To write for yourself is a blessed gift you receive. But to share those words is your gift to others. I am preparing gifts for you that, in the process, are giving me joy as well. So here’s to the gift, and the true Giver of words, may they reach their destination in the perfect time.

~Pamela

#pencup2015

All About Us…

Hi, I’m Cherilyn…one half of the Pen & Cup Book Tour, travelling eight U.S. venues in the Spring of 2015. I know, a year away??  We could have started this blog later on, but we want to get everyone fired up as you join us on our journey. I mean that literally. Today is the first post, the first blog. No venues have been reserved, no hotels have been booked… we’re building our fan base and sharing the process from start to finish…including maintaining the blog, photos and even video posts ON TOUR!!

My other half is Pamela, but I will let her introduce herself. We WILL post at least three times a week. We WILL answer questions, engage in conversation and not just envelope our readers in our blog preparation, but in our writing as well, our triumphs and challenges and the love and agony of balancing busy lives with the voices in our heads. We will be professional, but writing is a life, not a job. We might as well share our spilled milk and flat tires along the way! We will both post at will, so you  never know when one of us might pop in and complicate your day!

Cherilyn ~

I am a 38-year-old mother of one grown daughter with special needs, one daughter with a beautiful baby girl and two teenage sons. I am also the mama to a Doberman, one duck, two goats, one cat and let’s see, thirty-seven chickens? I lose count. There’s this handsome farmer around here somewhere who handles the animals outside and I handle the ones in the house! He actually works for the city while I teach and write, but we also have a furniture business, a research firm and I am working on my degree online. My Facebook page is linked below and has a much broader bio, but that’s a little about me.

The book I take on tour HAS NOT YET BEEN WRITTEN!!!  You heard correctly. It will be my eleventh or twelfth book and I have many ideas and WILL nail one down here quickly. So….not only will you enjoy as we plan our tour, go on our tour, raise children, wash dishes and miss hair appointments… you will ride along as our books develop into literary masterpieces I know they will be!! Check out my Facebook page for links to some of my other books on Amazon, as well as lots of plans for future work and work in progress! I wonder if we should take all of our work on tour…for sure focus on our newest release, but why not have others on hand?

So… since we have so much to do… I know what you’re thinking. YES! Yes, we would love suggestions, encouragement, questions and ideas!!  We are looking for eight venues for book signings in the following nine cities….. Dallas, San Francisco, Portland, Seattle, St. Louis, New York, Boston, Atlanta & Chicago. As our name may have hinted…we would love book stores that also double as coffee shops, art galleries, open mics or anything else that inspires people, the arts and add to their surrounding communities. We are very aware of the coffee shop madness that is sweeping the nation and we are on board! Do you know of a place near you, in one of these cities, that sounds like it would fit the bill? Let us know!!!

Well it’s 3:40 am, so I guess I’ll go for now. See my link below and look forward to hearing from Pam soon!

Goodnight and Good morning!!! 🙂

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