Sell Yourself Tall!!

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I just sold a book. Just now, to a friend of a friend, who had already read it.

They were both amazed that I had written a book, that they were meeting a real author and when I said I had written ten I thought they would swoon and need to fan themselves and have a seat. She insisted I sign it and went on and on.

To this I reacted as I typically do.

“It’s nothing, really.”

Then I charged her $8, even though the price on the back is $11 and tucked the cash in my pocket, pleased that I would have lunch money today.

Why did I do that? Why did I undercharge? Why did I shy away from my well-deserved praise and why do I act as if writing a book is no big deal?

We musn’t do this to ourselves. Whether we have written a book or a book report, cleaned the house or caught a fish, we must accept credit and hold our heads high! If we do not place value on the things that we do, then how can we expect anyone else to?

 

I think some of this stems from childhood anxiety, not being able to take compliments, not ever being taught to receive compliments and instead being taught that to boast or commiserate in one’s own successes is somehow arrogant or prideful. Well I’m not arrogant, but I am proud, of myself, for writing TEN books! There, I said it. It is a big deal. It does take countless hours and it is worth eleven dollars! She probably would have paid twenty, but I’ll never know will I?

I did the same thing the other day with a photography client and I knew the minute she reached for her checkbook that I had charged too little. She jumped too fast and I knew she was surprised, pleased, but fully prepared to pay more. Why do I do that? My husband says I do the same thing with our furniture business, that I have never charged too much, so I let him give quotes more and more. 

So, how to handle this differently, next time. Say thank you. Tell a story about how many nights you sat up, how many rough drafts you had or what you’re working on now. Share the credit with an old teacher or your mother or your children. Ask them to please get back to you and let you know what they thought. Care. Be gracious.

ch

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Being A Mother… Is HARD.

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My title may seem to be an understatement, an obvious piece of rhetoric that could be mistaken for sarcasm. But what it really is, is a cold, undeniable, fact. Being a mother is hard. 

I have an idea, let’s be responsible for another human being. Wait, say again, let’s be responsible for several other human beings. But let’s not just see that they survive, let’s really ingest their every whim, their pain and their passion, their mistakes and their successes. Let’s, we mothers pretend we can control and that we in fact are in control of everything. Every. Thing.

Every time they cry or fall or swear or take a breath, let’s feel it, hear it, breath it in with them and cry harder and louder and longer.

Let’s try a billion things, a billion times and fail. Let’s try again.

Even the good things, the poignant memories, the fantastic accomplishments, are soul crushing and bittersweet, because they are all steps taken away from us, against us, without us. Their new friends are not us, their favorite teachers are not us, their new babies and new houses and new jobs are all not ours or even with us in mind. But these are our babies.

So let’s watch, during the 86,400 instances in each day, let’s watch and wait and worry and wonder and weep, forever. Not for five years or twelve or eighteen or twenty-one years. Forever. From before they are born until after they may be gone, the ache, the draw, the magnetic tug on our ankles in the sand will always be our children.

Near or far, good or bad. On the very best of days, being anyone’s mother, is hard.

ch

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Tour news….

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Where is Pam??  Has anyone seen Pam? Pammie!!!!!!!??!!!!!

 

The quiet Republican is coming along great! I have decided to send a copy to Stephen Colbert and try to get him to bring me on the show. Even if he rips me apart….it’s face time!! 🙂

 

Check out our twitter too…. #pencup2015

 

We have decided to expand our tour venues to include a few churches, since some of our titles address faith, conservatism, etc.

 

Cheers.

C

All About Us…

Hi, I’m Cherilyn…one half of the Pen & Cup Book Tour, travelling eight U.S. venues in the Spring of 2015. I know, a year away??  We could have started this blog later on, but we want to get everyone fired up as you join us on our journey. I mean that literally. Today is the first post, the first blog. No venues have been reserved, no hotels have been booked… we’re building our fan base and sharing the process from start to finish…including maintaining the blog, photos and even video posts ON TOUR!!

My other half is Pamela, but I will let her introduce herself. We WILL post at least three times a week. We WILL answer questions, engage in conversation and not just envelope our readers in our blog preparation, but in our writing as well, our triumphs and challenges and the love and agony of balancing busy lives with the voices in our heads. We will be professional, but writing is a life, not a job. We might as well share our spilled milk and flat tires along the way! We will both post at will, so you  never know when one of us might pop in and complicate your day!

Cherilyn ~

I am a 38-year-old mother of one grown daughter with special needs, one daughter with a beautiful baby girl and two teenage sons. I am also the mama to a Doberman, one duck, two goats, one cat and let’s see, thirty-seven chickens? I lose count. There’s this handsome farmer around here somewhere who handles the animals outside and I handle the ones in the house! He actually works for the city while I teach and write, but we also have a furniture business, a research firm and I am working on my degree online. My Facebook page is linked below and has a much broader bio, but that’s a little about me.

The book I take on tour HAS NOT YET BEEN WRITTEN!!!  You heard correctly. It will be my eleventh or twelfth book and I have many ideas and WILL nail one down here quickly. So….not only will you enjoy as we plan our tour, go on our tour, raise children, wash dishes and miss hair appointments… you will ride along as our books develop into literary masterpieces I know they will be!! Check out my Facebook page for links to some of my other books on Amazon, as well as lots of plans for future work and work in progress! I wonder if we should take all of our work on tour…for sure focus on our newest release, but why not have others on hand?

So… since we have so much to do… I know what you’re thinking. YES! Yes, we would love suggestions, encouragement, questions and ideas!!  We are looking for eight venues for book signings in the following nine cities….. Dallas, San Francisco, Portland, Seattle, St. Louis, New York, Boston, Atlanta & Chicago. As our name may have hinted…we would love book stores that also double as coffee shops, art galleries, open mics or anything else that inspires people, the arts and add to their surrounding communities. We are very aware of the coffee shop madness that is sweeping the nation and we are on board! Do you know of a place near you, in one of these cities, that sounds like it would fit the bill? Let us know!!!

Well it’s 3:40 am, so I guess I’ll go for now. See my link below and look forward to hearing from Pam soon!

Goodnight and Good morning!!! 🙂

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